To my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend,
I have never met you, but I feel like I have heard a lot,
I heard you can be kind and caring, you have music skills I never got,
I heard you are intelligent, bubbly and smart
I heard you are determined to finish whatever you may start.
All in all, you sound like you’re a little bit like me,
Maybe in another life our friendship was meant to be,
But in this life, we have been given, that is not so,
I have nothing against you, there’s just something you should know,
I have never met you, but I have seen your moves,
I have bared the consequences of the things you do,
I understand you were hurt, losing your boyfriend of 3 years,
I know that wasn’t easy and you both shed many tears.
I know that you loved him, longer than he loved you,
And although, it must be painful, it’s no excuse for what you do.
When he and I became an us, he was no longer yours,
There was no hiding or cheating going on, when you two were fighting wars,
But when he and I became an us, it felt like there were three,
Thanks to you calling four times a day, despite knowing about me,
You texted and you e-mailed begging for him back, whilst I sat silent throughout,
I was hurting and angry, but knew you were too, without a doubt,
So even at a scout camp, I let you scream and I let you shout,
Knowing how much you were hurting him, it was hard to stick that out.
Now he and I are solid, as we have been from day one,
I have known about every text and e-mail, including those to his mom.
Now I am not silent, I must say how you are affecting me,
I have never met you, but “kind and caring” is not what I’ve seen,
It doesn’t seem as if you know how your actions are affecting others,
Me, my boyfriend, his mom and his brothers,
No, you have not got to me, I am not jealous, angry or upset,
Just trying to enjoy my relationship, but with you I can’t forget,
I can’t forget I’m not his first love, as he is mine,
I can’t forget that he is doing everything for a second time.
I don’t want him to forget you, and that he will not do,
You are part of him being him, as he is part of you being you,
So, no he hasn’t forgotten you, your memories still in the box under his bed,
I’m happy with that, as that’s part of his life but you need to get out of his head.
You cannot keep accusing him of being to blame for it all,
In any relationship going, there is rise and there is fall,
And yes, he admits he did some wrong, and that he is guilty and sorry for,
But it does take two to battle, and you claim to have not fought the war.
He has given you back your possessions and apoligised sincerely,
Now it’s time you forgave him, to move on and look back dearly,
No more bitterness, cries or fights,
Please let’s just leave it all here tonight.
I have never met you, but I can see you made him a better man,
He is smart and strong and kind, and does the best he can,
I thank you for being part of making him the man he is today,
But must ask you kindly, to hold your head high and walk away,
Please know, in all honesty, we both want you to move on,
Not for our own sakes, but for you to find joy, love and fun,
This is the last of personal communications, text or email, either way,
We hope we can work together in Scouting soon, or eventually someday.
For now, though, lets allow the dust to settle, and know this is written earnestly,
For all three of us to find our peace, just each done separately.
Wishing you all the best in life,
From your ex-boyfriend’s girlfriend